Respecting the fact that many of my friends are not Christian, I have often thought that, if Christmas did not exist in the United States, the nation would have done well to invent it.
In broad strokes, there are three Christmases (at least) wrapped into one holiday. Of course they share a common origin. But their manifestations exist quite independent of one another. I suspect, People of a Certain Age, that your experiences are similar to mine.
The first Christmas is the birth story of Jesus of Nazareth. The scenarios involved in the Biblical story still hold magic for me. Start with the fact that the person around whom a major world religion is centered began his life in a stable, surrounded by barnyard animals. His dad, a tradesman, could have afforded lodging if he had just called ahead but…And when a baby is ready to be born, it is ready to be born!
The baby drew visitors. Shepherd’s, the age’s middle class like tradesmen, and rich people, wise men from the east. Angels provided the music. One time we saw the preparations for the Nativity Pageant at the Crystal Cathedral and realized what a show can be staged from these simple facts. There were even live camels!
Our friend, Mildred Joseph, our “Jewish grandmother,” (her words) who never failed to host us at the symphony when we were in New York, exclaimed how happy she was that “that little baby boy was born because so much wonderful music has been written for him.”
For the faithful, the celebration of this Christmas connects them with the ages and encourages us to think about wondrous things.
Then there is Christmas, the holiday that encourages spending money. Have we not all, at times, grumbled about the Christmas displays in stores going up just after Halloween? A local columnist wrote about friends who asked their toddler what holiday came after Thanksgiving, and he chirped “Black Friday!”
So many businesses depend upon annual upticks in spending at Christmas in order to enable them to finish the fiscal year in the black. Black Friday is now morphing into Black November, the headline roared a few weeks ago, and on-line retailers have their day on Monday after Black Friday. “Christmas is so commercial now” has been a frequent grumble for decades.
Perhaps two observations might help to shine another light on all that buying and selling. First, as retirees, our income is, in many ways, tied directly to a healthy U.S. economy. Consumer spending, for better or worse, is the linchpin of the economy. And several of the investments we have depend upon sales for the revenue they take in, some of which comes to me as a dividend. I’ve never relished cutting off my nose to spite my face.
Secondly, for whom do people buy things? At what other point in our year do we purposefully spend money to buy things for others? And some people fret mightily over selecting just the right thing for the gift-receiver. It is worth speculating about what our world and our country would be like if we spent more time thinking about others in the way Christmas makes us do.
A local TV ad this year exhorts people to make gifts of themselves in service to others. Note: stuff still might get bought.
The third Christmas can be the most personal. The season being distinct, it often helps us remember. I’ve written before about how a specific song by Keali’i Reichel puts me in the car with Mom, Chad, Sandee, and Judy in the chill, waiting to go into Mom’s church for the Christmas Eve service one year.
Seeing the depiction of angels calls to mind a story I don’t recall due to my youth. Apparently, during the annual Christmas Pageant at the Ruth and Joe White house, my sister was dressed as an angel. She came down the stairs majestically. Her six-month-old brother (that’s me) broke into what Mom described as the first real belly laugh of my life. I would apologize if I could confirm the story…
Seeing cowboy garb reminds me of the Christmas when someone outside the family gave me Hopalong Cassidy toy guns, a banned item in the White House. I don’t recall seeing them much after I unwrapped them and apparently did not miss them.
While in graduate school in Seattle, we helped assemble toys for our friends’ boys, with the orbiting of the moon as our backdrop on television.
Certainly, not every Christmas memory for every person will be a good one. Not everyone has been blessed with growing up in the warmth of family that I enjoyed or married well. Judy’s mom died on a Christmas Day. The annual return of the holiday can prompt unwanted memories and even depression for some.
So, for those memories that enrich our lives, remind us of good times with family and friends, and cause in us moments of reflection, we have cause to be grateful.
Three Christmases. Maybe there is a unifying theme after all; thinking about people other than ourselves. That does deserve a holiday.
Daniel E. White
December 25, 2017