We went to see Mamma Mia, the stage play, for my birthday one year. Not long after, the movie, starring Meryl Streep, came out, and I’ve seen that a few times, too. I like Abba’s music. The songs I know feel upbeat and happy, even if the subject isn’t.
My millennial friends, no doubt, think me hopelessly square (People of a Certain Age, we know the real meaning of that word!) for my preferring music where one can understand the words and dance energetically. But, there it is.
A favorite Abba song is “I Have a Dream.” One lyric visits my head from time to time: “If you see the wonder of a fairy tale, you can face the future even if you fail.” What’s not to like about hopefulness and wonder?
Dreams seem a special form of hope. I wonder if hopefulness is a pre-condition to dreaming. And, I wonder how many of us ever chose to dream, really big, about being someone, doing some things, going somewhere.
“You gotta have a dream. If you don’t have a dream, how you gonna have a dream come true?” Can’t you hear Bloody Mary signing in South Pacific?
The movie LaLaLand invites one to think about dreams, too. The two leads have parallel dreams, each involving a passion, a hoped-for self. In a crucial scene, Mia, the aspiring actress, berates Sebastian, the wannabe jazz club owner, for abandoning his dream in favor of playing keyboards in a popular band.
Sebastian replies that, perhaps, his dream is unrealistic and unreachable. Perhaps he needs to modify his dream, acknowledging the realities of daily living. And besides, he continues, some people dream about doing what I am doing now!
There is a cost to dreams. That is one of the points of this movie.
Mia’s and Sebastian’s dreams were their individual dreams. We have recently marked the birthday of a man made famous by the words “I have a dream.” His vision encompassed all of us. It certainly costs. As a nation, we sometimes seem to have settled for less.
Equally worrisome, if some social commentators are right, belief in the American Dream has faded over time. Do large numbers of Americans still believe that they can achieve a better life for themselves and their families than their parents had? That has been a fundamental factor in the sunny optimism that is a part of our national mythology.
I can’t remember having a dream quite like Mia’s or Sebastian’s. I did want to succeed Mickey Mantle in centerfield for the Yankees. I have told my history students that I would like to be a Supreme Court Justice because the court could use someone offering opinions untainted by an attorney’s way of thinking. Neither was a serious dream; if either had been, wouldn’t I have tried harder?
I never dreamed of being a teacher, getting a PhD or co-founding a school. I never dreamed I would be lucky in love, sharing my life with my best friend since a year before King’s speech. I never dreamed that I would live in a nice house with a great view in “the best weather on the planet,” to quote our local TV weatherman.
Looking back, these would all have constituted reasonable dreams.
So Mia and Sebastian make me wonder about the importance of dreams. In dreams like theirs, there seems to be a passion, a thirst demanding to be quenched. Goodness knows that more people dream dreams like theirs than ever win fulfillment. If, like Sebastian said he should do, I’ve “settled,” compromised with the realities of daily living, I have no complaints. I am content.
Of course, Bloody Mary was right. “If you don’t have a dream, how you gonna have a dream come true?
Mia and Sebastian have reasons why their dreams are achievable. Mia knew something about the craft of acting. Sebastian was a jazz musician himself. Their dreams, in these ways, were grounded.
My brother-in-law wondered if there is a unique quality to the dreams of aspiring artists of any sort because art and passion always seem connected. He might be on to something. An artist without passion might be a contradiction in terms.
Looking back, I can see that I have sought to be upbeat and happy, like Abba’s music. Perhaps that has been my dream. Nothing grand, like being a Yankee centerfielder or a Supreme Court Justice or a movie star. Just finding happiness and being upbeat.
Dr. King challenges us to work toward that time when all people have the opportunity to just find happiness and be upbeat, to share in the benefits of our unique society. Maybe an American Dream built on this notion, rather than on being better than or making more than, is a worthwhile dream.
In it, there is room for Mia and Sebastian, Bloody Mary and Dan, those who see the wonder of a fairy tale, those with passionate thirst needing to be quenched and those who are content.
That’s the beauty about dreams. They can be as big as we want to make them.
Daniel E. White
January 23, 2017